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Rabu, 25 Desember 2019

Merry Christmas 2019

This is going to be my 4th year celebrating Christmas without my father, just together with my mom. Probably we are going to the mall or to her family this year, just to have dinner and a bit of chit chat. 

I just realized though I loves this is the season to be jolly and la la la la la la la la la... but, this is also the stressful season. The reason? Well, there are a few to mention, such as: 

Those dreading question like when are you going to get married? 
Thankfully, I am now 47 years old so I rarely get that irritating kind of question. Of course, there are always elderly who asked me about being single. One of them even made a shocked face as if that by being single I have broken one of the 10th commandment. But that’s life, you can’t expect all of them behave wisely.

Second, the stressful of preparing so many things.
Yeah, we have extra money let’s get something nice for us and family. I want that dress for Christmas Eve, I want that shoes, I want to take my family to have Christmas dinner and so on… Not to mention when you have to prepare to serves guests for Christmas celebration. All the pressure to serves the best so nobody talk behind your back… Though no matter how good that meal is, people still loves to talk about it behind your back. If you are out of luck, they will sneer in front of your face and scoffs, saying they could have make a better dinner… 

I can’t help but thinking about future Christmas celebration. Now I still have my mom… Sooner or later, I will have to face the festive season by myself. This kind of celebration moment brings back memory, good and bad, but all of them are in the past. And since you have nobody close to you to celebrate together, the bitter reality hit you hard… So depressing to see other people smile and being cheerful together with their loves one…

IGNORE social media like Instagram… seriously…  
Sure we can’t be jealous towards our own friends… but when you get lonely and depressed… then ignoring the source of your unhappiness probably something to think about. 

Plan ahead, if you can’t bear the thoughts of being lonely on the festive month then make a plan. Maybe you can join volunteering activities. But you really need to do that sincerely, not just for the sake of being together with so many people. 

Solo traveling should be on the list, put that on your planning… Making so many plans, why not? For certain, we will be able to achieve one or two or more. If not, well, there is always another year…

Though festive celebration is the moment to be with your family and friends…don’t get too stress if you end up celebrating it alone… Well, I hope I won’t be in the future… As the same about having or not having decoration, receiving warm wishes or not, what's more important the meaning of Christmas it self... We should sit back and think, what is the meaning of Christmas for ourselves. I still try to find the meaning all these years... Maybe someday I will find it... 

MERRY CHRISTMAS to you all… and may peace be with you ^_^

6 komentar:

  1. Mbak Ria natal tahun ini ke mana aja Mbak?

  2. Haii.. Selamat Natal yaa mba. Semoga selalu penuh kedamaian & kebahagiaan bersama keluarga. Laaff 🥰🥰

  3. I think that it is now 2020, and we need to think about what will be our dreams and wishes to be happened in the current year!

  4. Well... kalo lo mulai skrg berusaha untuk lebih terlibat di acara2 gereja, pas natalan ga bakal susah2 juga ngerayainnya, bahkan bisa jd terlalu sibuk di greja karena selalu adaaa aja yg harus dikerjakan. ��

  5. I suppose that it is high time to speak about Christmas 2020! Do not you think so, guys? Update your blog, please! Waiting for the changes!


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